Everyone remembers the couples who were always together at break times, lunch and before and after school. The ones who were caught kissing in corners, and who walked the halls with their hands in each others' pockets.
It seemed someone was always pushing the limits of acceptable public displays of affection. With Valentine's Day this week, Patch checked in to see what the prevailing trends are in some area high schools.
The policies are fairly consistent across districts, with hand-holding and hugging allowed—but officials frowning upon much more than that.
's policy is that students "shall not" engage in physical displays of affection inappropriate for a public setting. School personnel use their "professional judgment" to determine the inappropriateness of students' actions, and if students go too far, they could be disciplined—with consequences up to and including suspension.
allows hand-holding, and outlines disciplinary options from verbal warnings to expulsion, depending on the severity of the misbehavior. The handbook doesn't specifically list acts that could get students in trouble, except to say indecent exposure is grounds for immediate suspension.
In Racine, the district prohibits disruptive, distracting, inappropriate or indecent behavior, including "inappropriate and/or sexually explicit dancing." The people Patch talked to, representing the district's three large high schools, said they don't see students' behavior going beyond what is acceptable.
At Washington Park High School, Activities Director Jeff Miller said holding hands and a "quick kiss at the door when they walk to class" is fine. He said things have improved at the school over the past five years.
"It was really bad in the mid-2000s, but like sagging pants, seems to be on a downward trend," Miller said. "It's just not as bad now for whatever reason. PDA and behavior overall seems to be trending back to the appropriate end of the spectrum."
Directing Principal Jeff Eben said the situation here is different from California, where hallways are outdoors and all the blooming flowers seem to invite and encourage overt displays of affection. PDAs are hardly apparent in the hallways of Case, he said, and he has never had a student in his office for "going too far" in the hallways.
Horlick High School senior Rina Rebecchi said the policy against PDAs is pretty clear at school, where hand-holding and hugging is allowed, but "kissing is a little excessive." But at the dances, things get a little more heated.
"(The dance policy) isn't very effective," she said. "They allow people to practically fornicate on the dance floor."
She said the policies don't really seem to impact what students will do. "If people really want to do something, they'll be more sneaky and get away with it."
's formal rules prohibit "excessive" displays of affection in the halls or on school grounds, and the school defines excessive as "anything beyond hand-holding or a kiss on the cheek," according to Whitnall High School Principal Anthony Brazouski.
But it isn't typically a problem.
"In all honesty, our students have been very respectful of this particular rule, and I have witnessed very little 'excessive affection.'"
When he has seen students whose behavior has bordered on their expectations, he's ready.
"I have simply asked them to take it easy and head off to class," he said. "Students are very responsive and respectful. Two of my favorite lines are 'If you really love each other, then you wouldn't let the other be late for class,' or 'Kissing is cliche, but a super secret handshake is way more original.'"
Anyhow, I'd much rather hear of PDAs than the fights - down to Murders - in MPS!
Another story I did portrayed quite the opposite -- same school district -- at West Milwaukee Middle School they held ballroom dancing lessons to a. teach kids to treat the opposite sex with respect b. engage them in a more positive way to interact c. keep 'em busy after school. Was a great program... could really see RUSD doing something like that...
Wow! We didn't have any kind special program and most of our dances were pretty much like the one depicted in 'Napoleon Dynamite' (2004)! Then again, I was usually always DJ'ing instead of actually dancing at the dances, so maybe I didn't see what was going on. Speaking of DJ'ing, here's an interesting but true story. So, I was DJ'ing this high school dance back in early '99 when I decided to play 'Blue (Da Ba Dee)' by Eiffel 65. I used to do a specialty european electronica mix show on our local fm radio station that aired every Friday night from 9pm to 1am and would receive promo copies of stuff from the European based record companies long before a US label would pick distribution rights here in the states, so this was probably a good 6-7 months before the song premiered on any mainstream commercial radio stations or Mtv. Anyway, I was getting so many complaints from dancers that I had to pull the song before it was even finished. Fast forward 6 months. I'm back at the same high school DJ'ing another dance with mostly the same kids. By this time, Milwaukee top 40 stations had started playing 'Blue' in heavy rotation. I literally had so many requests for the song that I ended up playing it 3 separate times over the course of the night!
Shortly after that experience, I stopped DJ'ing high school dances all together.
Whatever that "strange reason" was, it affected me too! Do you think it could have been something in the water :-)
Try a cold shower or even a little something us 'big boys' like to call 'self control' :-)